Becoming a mom is really hard. Being a mom is really hard. Being a type A ‘I can do it all by myself thank you very much’ and then applying that to motherhood… in my case led to depression because I didn’t ask for the help I needed when I needed it. (Lack of sleep and the chemical/hormonal changes that happen during pregnancy and the post partum period also led to depression…it’s really a perfect storm.)
So, how do you ask for help? To be honest I’m still trying to figure this out and it is literally a daily battle to ask for help. I have made it a mid-year resolution to try to ask for help every day. It could be a small thing or a big thing. To be fair this is only my second day on this resolution – but it was amazing what a difference it made in my mindset yesterday when at work I asked someone to take the lead on something that I typically would have ran with. It was done faster and better. What’s hard for me to remember sometimes is that I am not perfect, and God gave me (and each of us) a set of capabilities. Me trying to do something outside of those capabilities is not the best. Note – there are things that have to get done that you don’t need a God-given capability for. Like grocery shopping. I am sure there are some people who are better than others at grocery shopping. At the end of the day, if you accomplish grocery shopping then you’ve accomplished the goal. One of the hardest things for me to do was to figure out what I could outsource, and then not beat myself up for outsourcing those things. While my husband was deployed and I had a small infant at home, those things became:
- Prime Now for Grocery Shopping
- WAG for dog walking
- Cleaning person for the deep cleaning
What things have you mommas outsourced? Any tips?
Yes, You Can. 